Hey Warrior,
So I had stopped taking fenugreek a while back when I realised it made me smell of it.
Well I had an O 3 days ago, Idk why but I was way too aroused and the O was very intense, it gave me quite strong POIS symptoms the past few days, more than usual, I think there is a correlation between arousal levels, O intensity levels and POIS level.
I felt really really bad yesterday, my testicles felt really sore and stinging then had the genius idea to take some fenugreek and in literally 10 seconds my testicle pain was gone.
I have a theory that maybe you can voice your opinion about, which is that anaphrodisiacs will dampen arousal levels, O intensity and eventually POIS symptoms. Actually I had read on this forum that fenugreek lowers O intensity. At the same time, I'm not sure about you but I suffer from PE, and I've noticed in the past that beer gave me more control, it happens to be an anaphrodisiac, muscle relaxant and increases mood. SSRIs increase mood, they lower libido and also happen to make people last longer.
I've been wondering if using these kind of anaphrodisiacs (well I don't really want to try SSRIs but the natural ones) might lower arousal, libido, PE and POIS symptoms.
The natural SSRIs also happen to lower libido.
I kinda feel obsessed with sex and my performance issues which are causing extra problems in my life, its been a couple years I've definitely been too obsessed with all sexual stuff, it would be nice to kinda take a break from sexual thoughts and focus on other things in life. My PE also makes me not want to go out and meet new people
Yeah man apparently fenugreek makes your odour smell sweet or something. The raw garlic will definitely make you stink unless you limit it to 1/3 of a clove or so. Thats what I did when I used to take them.
There does appear to be a correlation with arousal levels and intensity of POIS symptoms.
Anaphrodisiacs might help POIS by lowering arousal and thus intensity of symptoms. Much of this stuff can vary on a case by case. So you really just need to experiment and find what works for you man.
I've had ejaculations in the past where the arousal was very low, and I did feel like it reduced my symptoms. I think it's the same concept behind why wet dreams don't seem to illicit as intense symptoms. They aren't going to be as arousally intense compared to a sober ejaculation.
Using anaphrodisiacs might help your PE and POIS symptoms. Can't hurt to try bro!
I think theres a big list of anaphrodisiacs and other things you can play around with for reducing libido. Meat and eggs will most likely increase libido. Look into fasting. I know for sure my libido gets absolutely tanked when I'm in a caloric deficit. Thats another huge factor. Your body doesn't want to have sex if you aren't getting enough food or it's too stressed out i.e., you're smashing your body with exercise etc. Those things might not be healthy long-term tho. A vegetarian diet would could work really well unless of course you have food sensitivities like I do...
As for the PE stuff, which is kind of a separate issue and I can't really speak on it because I've fortunately never had those issues but I will give you my advice that I told my buddy who struggles with the same problem:
You really just need to talk about it when it happens. Just embrace it. Don't try and act all cool in the moment playing it off etc. Just vocalise exactly how you're feeling. This is going to require vulnerability and honesty on your part. It might sting your ego a bit, but the pressure of wanting to perform etc and the ego involved in that is exactly what is probably causing the PE. If you're having sex, then you're having a relationship with that person. All relationships require honesty and vulnerability for true connection. Read the book Models by Mark Manson. This is also how you develop true confidence, which is the main concept taught in the book.
If you ejaculate too quickly, who cares? A women is only going to take that as a compliment. If you haven't satiated her yet, you can easily do foreplay and all sorts of juicy things to her after...
Another thing you can look into is kegal exercises. Taylor Johnson who teaches how to do an integrative semen retention lifestyle has videos on this that I would recommend. He also talks quite a bit about the topic of PE because he struggled a lot with it as well.
Totally something you can overcome bro. Even then I personally don't see it as a big deal or anything really to overcome, apart from the fact that you just got turned on so hard because she's so beautiful. Haha as I said I would just embrace it, and be ok being the dude who finished early but gave her the most mindblowing oral sex she's ever had.
Hope that helps. Take whatever helps you, feel free to discard if you don't resonate with it.