I happen to have a different version of POIS.
A- If i don't go to sleep within 20min or so after O (following sex), then i develop typical symptoms of POIS and they last for 3-4 days. During this time i suffer from brain fog, excessive sleepiness, light headed, excessive sweating, irritated, cognitive impairment, fatigue, muscle weakness and headache/migraine. The more i sleep the sooner i can recover from these symptoms but they still take about 3 days at least although the symptoms become milder as i sleep more.
POIS is not triggered if i sleep at night right after sex. And due to this awkward strange reaction to sex i can not go for sex during day time. I can only have sex at night and sleep right after (in order to avoid POIS)
B- If i orgasm after masturbate, then POIS kicks in within an hour and gets worse the next day and lasts for 3-4 days. Even if i go to sleep right after masturbation/orgasm at night, it still does not help ! I get plenty of sleep yet the next day the symptoms of POIS starts to appear and gets worse the following day and then begin to subside the 3rd day and almost fully disappear by the end of 4th day from masturbation/orgasm. I did experiment few supplements but they either did not work or their effects were very short lived. I was also deficient in vitamin D3 and after taking supplements for it, the POIS symptoms got a little bit better.
In short, i want to understand why does my body react so differently to orgasm following sex versus masturbation? And why do i have to sleep within 20min or so after sex to avoid POIS? And i don't understand why i get so heavily sleepy headed with POIS as if i am drugged and i am literally dragging myself to do daily chores not to mention the anxiety and discomfort that comes with it/pois.
Hi Luminous!
I believe that your experience has a very important piece of te POIS puzzle. The severeness of my POIS (and others here) is also dependent on such things you mention. If I would list the POIS-triggers from the worst (top) to the least it would be like this:
1. Nocturnal emission (NE) or masturbation (MB)/orgasm (O) (what time doesnt matter)
2. Hight stress + loads of sugar/coffein (new cause that I just experienced last week)
3. Near nocturnal emision (sexual arousal)
4. Orgasm from sex in morning
5. Orgasm from sex in night
So what is the difference between the top and bottom? I believe its
oxytocin (and perhaps other endorphins and feel-good-hormones that are known for primarily helping one deal with stress and reduce feelings of pain)! Spikes of adrenaline/cortisol causes inflammation but oxitocin is anti-inflammatory and balances the cortisol/adrenalin
immediately, on seconds! Ocytocin is released when you feel relaxed, during hugging, meditation, deep breathing, hot shower, petting a cat/dag and at normal sex with lot of
skin contact. It is associated with love, but not nessecary
orgasm in itself. So thats why you dont get enought of it on masturbation, or viewing porn where you produce cortisol/adrenalin, and specially too much dopamin, but not enought levels of oxitocin and/or other feel-good hormones.
It further seems that those hormones need to be secreted at the same time (probably within seconds) as orgasm (or already be in adequate amounts in the blood) to be able to stop inflammation from occuring. So they dont stop inflammaton, they stop inflammation from
occuring. If you wait an hour, its too late, the damage is already done.
This also explaines why users on POIS forum has described why the POIS gett less worse if they use the following practise/products of which some are notoriously known for increasing oxytocin/endorphin levels:
Vitamin D
Vitamin C
Magnesium
Taurin
Coffee (if taken right after O, not in the long term, where it messes with hormonal balances by increases cortisol and lowering testosterone)
Lactobacillus (better gut)
Chamomile
Melatonin (higher amounts at evening/night, so sex at night causes less POIS)
Fenugreek
5HTP
GABA
L-Theanine
Green Tea
Eggs
Massage
Deep breathing immitiately after NE
Yoga
Warm and Cold showers
Normal sex (skin touching)
Sauna
Summer vacation
Exercise
Other anti-inflammatory foods and drugs could also work in the right amounts, but probably not as good as oxytocin, the bodys own super anti-inflammatory, that could be secreted in the right amounts at exactly the right time.
Of cource this doesnt try to explain why POIS happens in the first place, only the diffrent severity on diffrent triggers. Everyone doesnt experience POIS on MB, porn etc. Maybe their hormon levels are always balanced, in all weather. Their adrenals have enought of hormonal storage to manage all these diffrent form of O, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. So by working on your hormonal systems you might be able to restore normal hormonal capacity, but that could take time and requires sexual, dietary and supplemental discipline not to mention avoidance of stress, which for many people could be very hard.
https://www.optimallivingdynamics.com/blog/25-effective-ways-to-increase-oxytocin-levels-in-the-brainhttps://medium.com/@jordanfallis/25-effective-ways-to-increase-oxytocin-levels-in-the-brain-fe5ac39bc57