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Daysleeper

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Feeling not to date
« on: May 05, 2020, 07:42:48 PM »
Hi all,

I always feel so stressed about the possibility of dating and as soon as I let go of that thought or desire, I have peace. I've done a lot of cogntive therapy on many aspects of my life some of which was even related to POIS, relearning to talk to people comfortably, to breath normally, even to get to sleep amongst other things. Yet this feeling persists... this is probably beyond the scope of the group, more in philosophy then medicine, but I don't know how much value to give to these feelings? I've had this issue for at least a decade now, and I'm not that old. Is my body trying to send me a signal?

My POIS went away for a bit with the Russian glands technique, I still have it, but it isn't as severe. It now gives me a generalized anxiety and breathing issues. I think that they are partly mental, partly physiciocigal because I have (with difficulty) thought my way out of this anxiety before.

As I write, I think that dating could just be incredibly fearful for me, the uncertainity of what it will bring. I'm afraid to get married or have children, dealing with a frustrated spouse, or screaming child with POIS is something I don't look forward to. I feel a great deal of emotion thinking about this, I think that this will be a fruitful area for me to explore then.

-DS

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Re: Feeling not to date
« Reply #1 on: May 07, 2020, 04:25:52 PM »
I went on a Zoom date today. I was experiencing POIS, I just can?t feel a connection to people when I am in this state.  Everything inside of me feels spacey and distant. This is what I remember from my first gf.

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Re: Feeling not to date
« Reply #2 on: May 07, 2020, 08:25:17 PM »
I don’t think a virtual date like Zoom can spark the same interest as much as a face-to-face, even if it’s 6 feet apart.
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