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overcome11

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Question for those married people
« on: October 13, 2014, 06:33:59 PM »
Hi everyone,

I was just wondering for those who are married with POIS...

It seems there are quite a few of those who are married on this board with POIS...

I was wondering if you think it is possible to get married to the girl you love,, and just not have sex?
I was considering to save my career, to find a girl I love for who she is (not too sexy..this would cause too much of a temptation everyday..), and marry her, and live with her but live in different rooms? I have a pretty good job, so I think I may be able to woo a girl to marry me (and still be upfront about her about my condition/limitations before we decide to tie the knot).

Of course, I would still be pursuing treatment to neuros during this time for the hopes to cure/manage POIS symptoms drastically.

This seems like a way out to both save one's career (feel like oneself normally outside of POIS), and still get married.

My only concern is..to those who are married...does ever everyday interactions with wife (when not having sex)..ever lead to mild POIS symptoms? Eg. snuggling, french kissing..etc. While I would be ok with no sex, I cant imagine she would be ok with not even holding her during the day!
I just want to find a way to be myself (save career), and still achieve my lifes goal of getting married someday.

To those married..your thoughts, and any advice from your experiences? Would this plan even work??

Thank you,

overcome11

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Re: Question for those married people
« Reply #1 on: October 13, 2014, 06:35:53 PM »
I noticed there are some married people in this forum who chose to abstain for extended periods of time...during this time...are you basically 100% non-POIS? I understand this would vary case by case, individual to individual, but just wanted to see if this was even realistic...

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Re: Question for those married people
« Reply #2 on: October 13, 2014, 07:41:44 PM »
Anybody??

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Re: Question for those married people
« Reply #3 on: October 13, 2014, 08:21:48 PM »
Hi everyone,

I was just wondering for those who are married with POIS...

It seems there are quite a few of those who are married on this board with POIS...

I was wondering if you think it is possible to get married to the girl you love,, and just not have sex?
I was considering to save my career, to find a girl I love for who she is (not too sexy..this would cause too much of a temptation everyday..), and marry her, and live with her but live in different rooms? I have a pretty good job, so I think I may be able to woo a girl to marry me (and still be upfront about her about my condition/limitations before we decide to tie the knot).

Of course, I would still be pursuing treatment to neuros during this time for the hopes to cure/manage POIS symptoms drastically.

This seems like a way out to both save one's career (feel like oneself normally outside of POIS), and still get married.

My only concern is..to those who are married...does ever everyday interactions with wife (when not having sex)..ever lead to mild POIS symptoms? Eg. snuggling, french kissing..etc. While I would be ok with no sex, I cant imagine she would be ok with not even holding her during the day!
I just want to find a way to be myself (save career), and still achieve my lifes goal of getting married someday.

To those married..your thoughts, and any advice from your experiences? Would this plan even work??

Thank you,

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POIS has NOT made a difference -- overall.
10 years of significant POIS-reduction, treatment consisting of daily (365 days/year) testosterone patches.

TRT must be checked out carefully with your doctor due to fertility, cardiac and other risks.

40+ years of severe 4-days-POIS, married, raised a family, started/ran a business

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Re: Question for those married people
« Reply #4 on: October 14, 2014, 06:10:56 AM »
Thank you so much demogrfax. That's good to hear that on times you abstain from sex/masturbation you are still your normal self.
It gives me hope that as long as I am willing to give up masturbation and sex, I can still have a successful and married life on the outside..just with no sex. I just feel the only 100 percent sure method of treatment for me as of now is abstinence ( although i must hope neurologists can find something effective or even a cure for us in the meantime, such as a combo of Meds.)
Anybody else care to share?

I just want to share something: like in football, to win one must constantly adapt to what happens to us.