Author Topic: How many of you would consider yourself successful in life?  (Read 1688 times)

pois_nc

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I know POIS can be a very debilitating disease. I just turned 25 this year and have been suffering from POIS since I was 14. Compared to my peers, I have had good academic and career success. However, I feel I could do much better if I was not suffering from POIS.

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Re: How many of you would consider yourself successful in life?
« Reply #1 on: June 07, 2023, 06:53:12 AM »
I'm 39 and consider myself succesful. Have a wife and one child, also studied and have a flexible work from home job so no money issues (but i'm semi frugal).
I often think I could achieve more, but being content in life and in what you have is also an achievement.
(You're only 25, your life might still be totally turned around by random events like moving to a different city, finding a (different) partner, having a child etc etc)

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Re: How many of you would consider yourself successful in life?
« Reply #2 on: June 16, 2023, 01:36:09 PM »
I have a college degree, career and a family and that's all I've ever wanted in life. I could have a bigger house, have advanced my college degree to a masters and have way more house projects done if I didn't have POIS but I'm focusing on abstinence these days. I'm just a little late on the Master's degree and a few other things but I don't look back these days, I look forward and take the lessons I've learned from life and POIS and keep moving ahead. Looking back at what could have been or dreaming we don't have POIS doesn't really do anything but waste time. I think it's okay to reflect, be upset about a situation but you can't do that for a lifetime and waste what time we do have. Look people are born into life with all kinds of bad situations, some say f*** you and keep rolling ahead and kick life in balls and make the best of life, while others do nothing. My advice is to kick life in the balls. Find what works and do it. If it's abstinence, do that and if other treatments work, do that. Goals are the most important thing you can have.
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Re: How many of you would consider yourself successful in life?
« Reply #3 on: July 04, 2023, 08:08:49 AM »
I would consider myself successful in life but I'm 42 and my POIS problems started "just" 3 years ago. I'm not an ambitious person by nature but I did well so far, yet if I would have suffered POIS on top of my non-ambitious nature earlier in life, I can definitely say I would have been screwed. 

For example, I have a business that I've started 10 years ago with a business-partner and which was slowly build up from scratch. It's a niche business but it would probably be larger if I hadn't suffered from POIS, which absolutely decimated my motivation/energy levels to keep plugging away at it the past 3 years. All I was able to do was keep it going with the bare minimal work from my side, which has (understandably) frustrated my business-partner (who is a very ambitious go-getter) many times, but ... I really did the best I could while suffering from POIS (which I only discovered this week as the likely cause of my problems)
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Re: How many of you would consider yourself successful in life?
« Reply #4 on: July 21, 2024, 04:57:03 PM »
I'm relatively successful. But it came with a lot of headache and misunderstanding from others as it's an invisible illness and we are sometimes seen as lazy although we know it's far from the truth.
I think I could have been more successful but to be honest I learned about good supplements relatively early on so I think I've got no one to blame but myself. But there is no point in blaming really, everything was a learning experience and we are still here and can do better today than yesterday :)

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Re: How many of you would consider yourself successful in life?
« Reply #5 on: July 22, 2024, 04:44:49 AM »
POIS is wrecking my life. I am 52, I am suffering from POIS since 10 years i think. it is difficult to pinpoint the onset.
but what is happening is that the consequences of POIS are getting stronger and lasting longer for every ejaculation. new symptoms are also arriving, latest is tinnitus.
I have understood that this is really serious several years ago, and decided to quit masturbation and porn many times, but i keep relapsing. so therefore i consider myself a sex-addict, even though it sounds ridiculous considering that I am masturbating/having sex/watching porn extremely seldom. I feel so bad for so long after an ejaculation that the desire for sex and everything else is just gone. but as soon as i start feeling well again, I just can't help relapsing again.
Having real sex without ejaculating worked well as long as it was outside of POIS symptoms. If i had sex during POIS symptoms I wasn't able to control ejaculation and resulted in more symptoms.
Just recently my partner (18 years relation) and mother of my child left me and it is very hard.
I still have a job where i perform ok, but i get tired easily.
I wish I could have stayed away from porn. In my opinion sex without ejaculation is far better than sex with ejaculation.

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Re: How many of you would consider yourself successful in life?
« Reply #6 on: July 22, 2024, 08:23:45 AM »
I'm 39 and consider myself succesful. Have a wife and one child, also studied and have a flexible work from home job so no money issues (but i'm semi frugal).
I often think I could achieve more, but being content in life and in what you have is also an achievement.
(You're only 25, your life might still be totally turned around by random events like moving to a different city, finding a (different) partner, having a child etc etc)
What job?

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Re: How many of you would consider yourself successful in life?
« Reply #7 on: July 23, 2024, 04:21:56 AM »
No, I don't consider myself successful at all.
" I coulda been a contender. I coulda been somebody, instead of a bum, which is what I am, let's face it..."
That quote just about sums up my life so far but hopefully things are going to get better from here on  :)