Hi Mellivora and Everyone!
Mel, your first attempt at getting outside funding was
excellent. I think that contacting a condom company was a brilliant idea!!
It might be helpful to post the name of the company(s) you contacted, so that others don't re-contact them. There is nothing wrong with them for turning down your request, and it would not be detrimental or harmful to mention the company name -- especially since they state that they have other charity commitments. That in itself is a complement to the particular company -- the charity commitments.
There are many major condom companies in the US and overseas. Others on the forum might wish to try their luck at asking for donations (which would be the reason to post the name of the company that couldn't donate.)
As an aside, a close friend of mine -- a guy without POIS -- was blown away by what POIS is. Of course, he'd never heard of it and was really flabbergasted -- and moved. He suggested that some of you may want to send a fund-raising letter to some of the popular men's magazines that are sexually-focused, such as Penthouse and Playboy. he was quite serious about this, and I think it's a good idea too!
Here's a link to sample donation request letters --
http://www.buzzle.com/articles/donation-request-letter.html. (There are many others online.) It might be helpful to you and other forum members who want to reach out. One hint -- it helps to find out who the president, CEO, etc is of the particular company, so that you can be very specific in addressing the correct person.
Good luck--and keep trying!!! You (all of you) never know where that big donation will come from!