I've abstained for long periods of time but never in hard mode. Meaning no touching or stimulation at all until an NE. Obviously an erection is OK but no stimulating it at all.
I've done this maybe a couple of days in a row tops, but each time I notice my head is really really clear along with a very refreshing nights sleep. However if I touch again, I sort of relapse. Not sure if this is a mini POIS reaction or just hormones.
I'm going to give this a try, no stimulation until NE. Ill update. Has anybody else done this?
Hi GLC,
I do a slightly different version of what you call "hard mode". My version is no touching or stimulation until intercourse ( remember i am in a stable relationship). This hard mode is highly beneficial for my emotional stability, emotional problems being my worst POIS symptoms, and it is also great for my stamina.
I also always use my pre-release pack of supplements. So, it's hard mode, then release with pre-pack , than return to hard mode till next time. "Next time" is in 1, 2, or 3 or even 4 weeks. It may be easier for me now since I am 51, but it is also about a state of mind, a clarity about what it is you really want in life.
Another important mindset change I had to go through in order to be able to be relax and well in hard mode, is a change in "beliefs" concerning virility. I had to let go of the cultural belief that being a true male is being always ready, almost like you have to suffer from a lack of sex on a constant basis. In our culture, male, in a way, are supposed to be quite focused on sex, and supposed to get tense and need a release, as a "fix", on a regular basis, and the faster you need this, the more you are a "true male". The cultural pressure and programming is not as strong for everyone, but it is present in all occidental country, for sure. It has taken time to learn to re-wire my belief system and my male identitty and feel great, feel myself, even when i do not feel any sexual urge whne I "should". It sure means you have passion for many things in life, and that you have many sources of enjoyments, overall. Granted, I meditate, I do yoga, I practice sports regularly, and that is part of why I can do that, but do not underestimate the power of beliefs!
I suppose that a man that has no POIS could have a hard time achieving hard mode, no motivation being there in order to achieve it ( unless you want to be a monk). My situation is quite different, I am no monk, and the symptoms of POIS are far enough to motivate me in achieving hard mode. The rewards of an easier life, a more satisfying social life, felling better on a regular basis, and so on.
