I have a college degree, career and a family and that's all I've ever wanted in life. I could have a bigger house, have advanced my college degree to a masters and have way more house projects done if I didn't have POIS but I'm focusing on abstinence these days. I'm just a little late on the Master's degree and a few other things but I don't look back these days, I look forward and take the lessons I've learned from life and POIS and keep moving ahead. Looking back at what could have been or dreaming we don't have POIS doesn't really do anything but waste time. I think it's okay to reflect, be upset about a situation but you can't do that for a lifetime and waste what time we do have. Look people are born into life with all kinds of bad situations, some say f*** you and keep rolling ahead and kick life in balls and make the best of life, while others do nothing. My advice is to kick life in the balls. Find what works and do it. If it's abstinence, do that and if other treatments work, do that. Goals are the most important thing you can have.