Hey guys, just wanna tell you guys what I did so far since I discovered the forum. It's been 10 days since my last ejaculation, and I'm trying to exploit the time as much as possible by doing some fun activities.
If you're interested in abstaining masturbation, I found something worked really like a magic. nowadays I use something called Hops, they give an instant effect to mildly low your libido, very instant effect, I'm talking 30 seconds later after taking 1 capsule my libido dropped down immediatly, It really helps with abstaining, although try to minimize the dose to 2 capsules for 1 day, and I believe It conflicts with caffeine, last time I took it under caffeine effect it gave me drowsiness. the name of the product I use: Nature's Way, Hops Flowers, 310 mg.
why I'm abstaining? I'm trying to make the POIS symptoms 0% and then I'll try niacin for the first time in my life, I wanna make sure I get the effect the same that you guys had, I'll make sure I get the flush, I'm using 500mg niacin. and then after the flush I'll wait 30-40 mins then ejaculate.
Also, I had a terrifying thought today. Is there a possibility that in the future my sons will inherit my POIS when the hit puberty? If so I'll try raising them to avoid sexual activities as much as possible, I don't know If there's married people here with adult sons, If so please tell us.
Hi Meshal,
Interesting strategy, I will be interested in reading your future updates.
About your concern, I can share that my son, who is now an young adult, do not have POIS. Of course, I never discussed this with him ( I do not discuss about POIS with my children, or anyone, except my wife and my psychotherapist, and this forum), but, he had a steady girlfriend for years, and that never prevent him to keep on with his competitive sports activities, and I never saw any abnormal fatigue or any cognitive or emotional symptoms, even if I knew he had sexual relations with his girlfriend. Of course, I was happy to see that he didn't have this very debilitating syndrome
I think POIS is very rare because it believe it is caused by several very specific problems in one single individual, like, maybe, small mutations in more than one pathways like methylation or other elimination pathways in the liver, as well as maybe some problems in some enzymes related to neurotransmitters, and so on. And I think that all POIS sufferers do not all have exactly the same "kit" of metabolic defects leading to "metabolic failure" following ejaculation, this later being a very complex reflex and very demanding process for the body. We usually cope with normal daily activities, when out of POIS, but the high demand linked to ejaculation is overwhelming for our flawed inner machinery, and symptoms then appears.
Considering that our children have a mix of our DNA and the DNA of our spouse, chances are limited that we could transmit POIS on the genetic level. Considering my above hypothesis ( that POIS is caused by multiple small defects, and not only one major DNA defect), our son must inherit each and every single small mutations that contribute in the manifestation of POIS. and they would have not to be compensated for by hteir mother'S DNA. Let's say for example that we have 6 SNPs ( Single Nucleotide Permutations) in our DNA that are the major contributors in creating the manifestation of POIS. Than, for our son to have POIS should first get each and every one of these 6 defects in his own DNA to also have POIS. But usually, those defective SNP are recessive, meaning that the more efficient gene coming from the mother side should be the one manifesting, and than offset for the less functional SNP we may have contributed. So, the chances are very low that all those SNPs are transmitted AND not offset by the mother's genes for all of these particular genes. If our SNPs are heterozygote, meaning that we have one bad and one good gene for a particular defective, POIS-contributing locus ( we all have genes in pairs - one from father, one from mother), than, there is also a chance that we transmit the good one, not the problematic one. This reduce even more still the chance to "transmit" POIS, as I see it.
I hope this will reassure you a bit, Meshal !
In reverse, we can realize how unlucky we have been at the DNA lottery, so that we have enough of the required defects in order for POIS to manifest, and, above this, had some psychological or physical traumas in order for this potential for POIS to manifest ( not all is written in genes, in my opinion, there is almost always a mix of genetic factors and environmental factors ). This would account for how rare POIS is, considering that all men on earth ejaculate once in a while, and just a tiny, tiny fraction have POIS ( 1 in 700 000 ? ).
Well, some are much more unlucky than we are, just think about cystic fibrosis, multiple sclerosis, and the like.... At the end of the day, we all have to do our best with the cards we have in hand