Problems with self-esteem

[special123]

So the title of this post might be a little weird, but the question is valid. Does anyone else struggle with low self-esteem during a POIS cycle? Normally my self-esteem is fine, I am a confident guy, enjoying life, but during pois cycle I become timid, anxious, and appear to others as if I have very low self-esteem....anyone else with the same problems? This is one of the worst parts of a cycle for me...for 2 or 3 days i act like a coward sometimes.

[certainlypois2]

So the title of this post might be a little weird, but the question is valid. Does anyone else struggle with low self-esteem during a POIS cycle? Normally my self-esteem is fine, I am a confident guy, enjoying life, but during pois cycle I become timid, anxious, and appear to others as if I have very low self-esteem....anyone else with the same problems?

Welcome to the party. 

[Nas]

So the title of this post might be a little weird, but the question is valid. Does anyone else struggle with low self-esteem during a POIS cycle? Normally my self-esteem is fine, I am a confident guy, enjoying life, but during pois cycle I become timid, anxious, and appear to others as if I have very low self-esteem....anyone else with the same problems? This is one of the worst parts of a cycle for me...for 2 or 3 days i act like a coward sometimes.

These symptoms are a staple of POIS. People associate POIS with flu like symptoms but I argue POIS is more characterized by neuropsychological symptoms, often unnoticeable by doctors.

[demografx]

Welcome to the party.
 

[demografx]

People associate POIS with flu like symptoms but I argue POIS is more characterized by neuropsychological symptoms, often unnoticeable by doctors.

I have never been happy with the “flulike” description of POIS.

I think it came about from Dr Waldinger’s first finding with only 2 patients, and a subsequent publicity effort that really caught on with mass media, TV, newspapers, magazines.

It made POIS “easy-to-understand” for the general public.

We’re now finally ready for a new public perception!

[b_jim]

You can"t have self-esteem problems : if you have Pois, you are a hero ! 

Seriously it's a typical and common symptom of Pois, a mini-depression episode I think.

[demografx]

You can"t have self-esteem problems : if you have Pois, you are a hero ! 

True!

[special123]

Thanks all for your replies!

[Animus]

So the title of this post might be a little weird, but the question is valid. Does anyone else struggle with low self-esteem during a POIS cycle? Normally my self-esteem is fine, I am a confident guy, enjoying life, but during pois cycle I become timid, anxious, and appear to others as if I have very low self-esteem....anyone else with the same problems?

Welcome to the party.

I remember that feeling very well. Yes, it was so bad for me socially- that I would shut myself in for a day or 2, avoid social interactions. ..and plan to be abstinent before important meetings. Self esteem is very important. And interacting with people when you are in POIS can sometimes cause inintended consequences. I just think it's best to be kind to yourself, and minimize your interactions during that time.

[OpiesDad]

I have become a virtual shut-in.  Avoid social contact, and do feel quite terrible about myself.  When I am with folks I am unable to enjoy conversation, just getting through it.  The idea of starting a new relationship or meeting someone new is a total non-starter.  This is all a new phenomenon to me but the brain fog, head pressure/dizziness and anxiety are taking their toll.  Makes me want to hide, unfortunately.  For me the biggest concern is how frequently my POIS is triggered outside of the O context.  I am 9 days from my last O and have had cognitive/brain fog conditions which go away but return at some point each day since, including right now. What's a guy to do?

[Muon]

I'm hiding for years. When I'm in POIS I don't want to have contact with people anyway, I don't feel the need to. But when I'm feeling relatively well I feel the need to socialize with people. I can spend months in my own apartment in POIS mode without seeing a single person but when I'm feeling well it's difficult to be on my own even for a few days. 

[demografx]

Same here, Muon!

[b_jim]

The lack of self-esteem may be a sign of low serotonin.

Serotonin may be linked to Pois by 2 ways : the release during orgasm and the composition of semen.

[Gino]

@Special123 - yes, low self esteem is one of the usual symptoms.

It's good that you have noticed it as being distinctly related to POIS.

That way you can moderate your conversations with people (during POIS days) and know it's just a temporary mood rather than being a part of your true character. It will pass.

If you have the freedom to talk about POIS with your loved ones then they know to look our for your 'down' days and help pick you up.

Also, if you experience unusual irritability (another common symptom of POIS for a few days), then your sexual partner knows when to give you feedback that's constructive rather than taking offence.. but everyone has their limits!

[ElVelero]

During POIS I feel worthless, someone that is not able to live a normal life, I become afraid of me not being able to reach my goals since in any time a Night ejaculation will ruin the moment.

I struggle with starting a relationship with a girl and POIS makes it even harder. Also If I ever get laid I will be sick after so my body wants me to find someone but at the same time punishes me when I ejaculate. Abstaining sometimes is boring and frustrating since almost no one has this condition, why I needed to have this weird thing, is complicating my life significantly, this shouldn't exist in the first place. 9 years have passed since I started with this and the most of my memories from puberty and my teenager years are being with POIS and being anxious, being socially weird and getting always late for school, something that gave me bad reputation.

I kind of lost the hope of getting cured, specially when you tell that you are older than me and nothing has changed.

I want to form a family with a girl but I doubt if I would be prepared or my hipotetical girl would leave me for this, how would I satisfy her?! I wouldn't enjoy sex If I ever get it, and the worst part is that as any human, I desire it.

My self-esteem blows up when I have POIS, I feel like a worthless person that doesn't deserve getting laid and probably if I reach an important position my energy will be low and I will be lazy enough to fail.

[Spartak]

I'm hiding for years. When I'm in POIS I don't want to have contact with people anyway, I don't feel the need to. But when I'm feeling relatively well I feel the need to socialize with people. I can spend months in my own apartment in POIS mode without seeing a single person but when I'm feeling well it's difficult to be on my own even for a few days.

Hi Moun

How do you menage to keep friendships? Do your close friends know for your condition?