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Re: Got Cured
« Reply #220 on: February 01, 2023, 06:55:28 AM »
I know the POIS is different but I still find this picture funny
We should use POIS memes, spread them around NoFap Semen Retention groups, this way more would learn of it as memes are easy to pass on

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Re: Got Cured
« Reply #221 on: May 21, 2023, 12:32:10 PM »
https://youtu.be/EGGtsV1UQTM

There are psychological elements in POIS. Watch this. Desperation plays a big role in it.
LOSE THE DESPERATION.

I'm fine guys. Wish you all the best.

My POIS is gone but I still experience mild symptoms when eating junkies. But really for me, It's only TMS.
 

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Re: Got Cured
« Reply #222 on: May 24, 2023, 03:20:45 PM »
I don't know how but I got sick with ambition and greed. This made me an awful human, full of anxiety. Terrible, Terrible anxiety in every second that I was being unproductive. I got ungrateful for my friends and family and basically, I got lost.

Dear fellow humans, I wish you all to be healthy in your mind and body. I know you can beat this.

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Re: Got Cured
« Reply #223 on: May 24, 2023, 09:04:07 PM »
I don't know how but I got sick with ambition and greed. This made me an awful human, full of anxiety. Terrible, Terrible anxiety in every second that I was being unproductive. I got ungrateful for my friends and family and basically, I got lost.

Dear fellow humans, I wish you all to be healthy in your mind and body. I know you can beat this.
Ambition and greed create stress and anxiety.  On the contrary, kindness and compassion, for self and others, slow aging and lowers inflammation in the body:  https://drdavidhamilton.com/3-ways-that-being-kind-can-slow-ageing/
   
Since I have aligned myself as much as possible with kindness, compassion, and gratitude, my health is better, and of course, my relations with others too :)   This includes, of course, self-compassion ( see more info on that at https://self-compassion.org/  - there are also exercise and guided practice, on this excellent website dy Dr Kristin Neff, who have been studying self-compassion for over 20 years)
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Re: Got Cured
« Reply #224 on: May 25, 2023, 06:38:23 AM »
I don't know how but I got sick with ambition and greed. This made me an awful human, full of anxiety. Terrible, Terrible anxiety in every second that I was being unproductive. I got ungrateful for my friends and family and basically, I got lost.

Dear fellow humans, I wish you all to be healthy in your mind and body. I know you can beat this.
Ambition and greed create stress and anxiety.  On the contrary, kindness and compassion, for self and others, slow aging and lowers inflammation in the body:  https://drdavidhamilton.com/3-ways-that-being-kind-can-slow-ageing/
   
Since I have aligned myself as much as possible with kindness, compassion, and gratitude, my health is better, and of course, my relations with others too :)   This includes, of course, self-compassion ( see more info on that at https://self-compassion.org/  - there are also exercise and guided practice, on this excellent website dy Dr Kristin Neff, who have been studying self-compassion for over 20 years)

I can testify that Quantum’s approach helped me!
10 years of significant POIS-reduction, treatment consisting of daily (365 days/year) testosterone patches.

TRT must be checked out carefully with your doctor due to fertility, cardiac and other risks.

40+ years of severe 4-days-POIS, married, raised a family, started/ran a business

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Re: Got Cured
« Reply #225 on: May 25, 2023, 07:32:42 AM »
I don't know how but I got sick with ambition and greed. This made me an awful human, full of anxiety. Terrible, Terrible anxiety in every second that I was being unproductive. I got ungrateful for my friends and family and basically, I got lost.

Dear fellow humans, I wish you all to be healthy in your mind and body. I know you can beat this.
Ambition and greed create stress and anxiety.  On the contrary, kindness and compassion, for self and others, slow aging and lowers inflammation in the body:  https://drdavidhamilton.com/3-ways-that-being-kind-can-slow-ageing/
   
Since I have aligned myself as much as possible with kindness, compassion, and gratitude, my health is better, and of course, my relations with others too :)   This includes, of course, self-compassion ( see more info on that at https://self-compassion.org/  - there are also exercise and guided practice, on this excellent website dy Dr Kristin Neff, who have been studying self-compassion for over 20 years)

I can testify that Quantum’s approach helped me!
I am glad it did, Demo !   
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Re: Got Cured
« Reply #226 on: June 11, 2023, 01:26:49 PM »
Here are my additional tips for POISers:

a) never orgasm in hostile/chaotic place. Schedule orgasm (masturbation, sex) where you will feel relaxed and stressless afterwards with loving people
b) take some time. When masturbating do it for 15 minutes, slow very slow. Same goes for sex. You can go faster after 15 minutes
c) work out, eat healthy food. yoga is also good.
d) Contemplate on shame and guilt and if you feel any try to work on it. Try to live a life where sex doesnt produce guilt.
e) be here NOW. Don't schedule things in distant future. Only do things under your nose. (To avoid stress)
f) Do what you love only. Focus on spiritual life (I recommend Krishnamurti, Alan Watts, Henry Miller and etc)
 
Good Luck. I'm feeling better bros. I've had rough years beacause of POIS. Good Luck. I know you can beat this

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Re: Got Cured
« Reply #227 on: June 17, 2023, 08:03:10 AM »
g) take some Aspirin if POIS still happens. Do Wim Hof breathing
h) Avoid negative self-talk like - I'm weak. they're going to find out, I am stupid and etc.

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Re: Got Cured
« Reply #228 on: June 18, 2023, 02:35:04 AM »
Ii Trust yourself. If you're addicted to Porn work on addiction. Avoid PORN it messes with your brain
j) Work on your self-image. Try to love yourself.
k) Try not to stay in bed in the morning. Try to relax before sleep to increase the quality

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Re: Got Cured
« Reply #229 on: June 19, 2023, 07:43:16 AM »
l) don't be afraid to express your emotions. I've mentioned avoiding negative self-talk but sometimes even those things must be expressed. try to express everything you feel in diary. Self-loathing had big part for me in POIS

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Re: Got Cured
« Reply #230 on: June 26, 2023, 03:12:05 PM »
m) talk to yourself always. Assure ourself. It's okay to have sex. it's okay to masturbate. TALK YOURSELF VERBALLY.
n) [fellatio is] safest for me. Because it's slow and you are not in control to ejaculate quickly.
o) more you think about it the more real it gets.
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Re: Got Cured
« Reply #231 on: July 03, 2023, 08:03:03 AM »
p) trust your feelings. Trust your thoughts. They matter, they are true. Always validate your thoughts and don't fight them
q) Relax instead of fighting

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Re: Got Cured
« Reply #232 on: July 13, 2023, 04:21:53 AM »
r) if you feel sad feel sad. If you feel guilty about sex feel guilty. Never hide your thoughts from you.  Every thought is normal.
s) If you experience psychological stress, low self-esteem, or anxiety try to work on it.

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Re: Got Cured
« Reply #233 on: August 02, 2023, 01:10:49 PM »
t) paradoxical intentions. try to act the opposite of what you would normally do. Not only in POIS but in life. That will help you to get rid of habits and unnecessary thoughts.
u) stop caring about what others think about you. it's okay to be disliked.  Suggested books: No more mr nice guy. Courage to be disliked. Viktor Frankl Paradoxical intention. Read about Gestalt also.


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Re: Got Cured
« Reply #234 on: August 03, 2023, 09:46:42 AM »
v) POIS is a message. Listen to it. it tells you something. For me, it was - You wasted time. You did the unbearable, wrong thing and you must suffer. You have so many important things to do but now you are incapable of doing it.
I just acknowledged  it was a distorted, scared worldview from my anxious teen years

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Re: Got Cured
« Reply #235 on: August 05, 2023, 09:21:34 AM »
w) be aware. Always try to stay aware of what's happening. Stay present. Strive for Satori
x) Masturbate without porn. Learn more about your organism.
y) Don't try to change your nature. Don't try to change your being. It'll make everything worse. Just see it as it is.
z) Your mind has bigger power over the body than you can imagine.

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Re: Got Cured
« Reply #236 on: August 06, 2023, 09:25:19 AM »
Yes, if you trip on why you shouldnt do this and shouldnt do that, when those things ur bound to do again, when you eventually do those things, you feel guilty, and too much guilt leads to depression and anxiety

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Re: Got Cured
« Reply #237 on: August 10, 2023, 01:52:59 AM »
I suggest reading this book
https://www.goodreads.com/en/book/show/402226

and talking to your POIS symptoms in the way Fritz Perls used to

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Re: Got Cured
« Reply #238 on: August 10, 2023, 06:36:17 AM »
Here's a little transcript of the encounter that I had with myself (and my symptoms). It reduces POIS symptoms greatly.
I believe you all should do similar things. Read more about gestalt please
This is translated version so there are some problems with it.

lw: I'm jerking off, what's the problem? What's the problem that I beat off on Porn last night?

Tense in my organism: You have work to do today. what else are you doing? That's all you did.
lw: I can't stand thinking always about the future. I can be in the present and do whatever I want. It really encourages you to think about the future. I will look to the future!


Weak lw: I'm a terrible person! You are a terrible person. You are people pleaser. You drive your ass to the elders and try to please everyone. Why do you want to please them?
strong lw: You are the one who wants to please because you are afraid of them! Do you think they will understand that you have masturbated? Do you think they will say that he is a weak person? I am not afraid of them. You are the person who is afraid of being found out and judged.
Weak lw: I'm scared lw and I'm scared of everyone. I say the word to appear wise. To show that I am human. I am weak and afraid of everyone.

lw: I'm not afraid of anyone. I love myself and I don't care what others think of me. Strangers to me are people like me. people and my way is my way. I speak when I think I need to speak.
Weak lw You must overcome weakness.
Weak lw: But I won't let myself.
Head: I don't give lw the right to think and be his true self because the true self is a moving pervert and so he can't find a place in society. The name will be bad if he is a pervert, then he will be called a bully and no one will love him.
lw: Moving is not something you can call a perversion. No one will call me a pervert because I do what I do behind closed doors. I have the right to interact with people and I have the right to be friends with people and have them love me and the fact that I jerk off doesn't stop me at all.

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Re: Got Cured
« Reply #239 on: August 10, 2023, 10:03:31 AM »
POIS - I've hit you now and you're weak because I'm a cruel disease that slows down and makes a person lazy

lw: You don't exist. you are a lie You don't exist, I invented you to wrap my fears inside. I'm lazy, not you. You don't exist, your existence is the reason I don't do anything. To watch UFC, to sit at home and read and be in this same cycle. asleep.