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If you're looking for a woman...
« on: July 26, 2016, 07:36:28 AM »
This is just an idea.
I mentioned this before in another thread,
but I better put this in here since it's related to love and relationships.

I noticed that there are some of you who are looking for a woman who doesn't mind not having sex and who is understanding when it comes to POIS.

In that case dating an asexual woman might be an option for you.
More information about asexuality can be found here: http://www.asexuality.org/home/

If you choose to use, for example, an asexual dating site, I recommend that you
   1. Explain your situation with POIS
   2. Mention that you are (hetero)sexual
      (This is important! Do not pretend to be asexual if you are not!)
   3. Explain what your wishes are and what you're looking for in a person

I hope this might be helpful for a few people here.

My best wishes to all of you!
« Last Edit: July 26, 2016, 07:38:37 AM by guardian »

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Re: If you're looking for a woman...
« Reply #1 on: July 26, 2016, 02:47:10 PM »
Interesting, and Welcome, guardian! :)
10 years of significant POIS-reduction, treatment consisting of daily (365 days/year) testosterone patches.

TRT must be checked out carefully with your doctor due to fertility, cardiac and other risks.

40+ years of severe 4-days-POIS, married, raised a family, started/ran a business

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Re: If you're looking for a woman...
« Reply #2 on: December 22, 2019, 02:56:24 PM »
Hm, this is confusing subject for me, personally deep inside I do not want asexual partner, future girlfriend or wife.
If noting else because I am sure that most of us here are quite sexual, maybe even more then average person because many of us abstain a lot, and see sex as somewhat forbidden fruit, aka the sweetest one.
But I am totally aware that I might not be good choice for some women with high sexual drive.

But also, we should be aware that even women with higher sexual drive often have lower then most men, you can imagine how many times would asexual women then refuse you to have sex, even if you perfectly planed next days for POIS recovery.

So I see good sides of dating asexual women, but I also see some downsides, if nothing else you might find such women as uninteresting in general and sexually unattractive.

For now only heathier diet gave me minor fatigue relief, I am still unable to think, to work, to enjoy and to socialise during POIS.

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Re: If you're looking for a woman...
« Reply #3 on: December 22, 2019, 04:37:11 PM »
Spartak, how do you deal with being stimulated? Like after watching porn? Can you just stop and go attend other issues or do you get trouble focusing on other stuff until you masturbate?

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Re: If you're looking for a woman...
« Reply #4 on: December 24, 2019, 11:19:37 PM »
Truth to be told I can not remember when was the last time I watched porn  ;D

Really depends, sometimes when in POIS I have strong urge to have new O, it can be only thing that is pleasing to do at that moment. 
But outside of POIS I have generally poor concentration, which might be related to lack of sexual release, but years ago I overcome that urge to masturbate, so outside of POIS, generally yes, I can go back to normal activities, recently I had a girlfriend, and I actually felt energized and motivated to do things after being with her, of course if there was no O.
What are your experiences regarding it?
For now only heathier diet gave me minor fatigue relief, I am still unable to think, to work, to enjoy and to socialise during POIS.

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Re: If you're looking for a woman...
« Reply #5 on: December 25, 2019, 10:44:31 AM »
Truth to be told I can not remember when was the last time I watched porn  ;D

Really depends, sometimes when in POIS I have strong urge to have new O, it can be only thing that is pleasing to do at that moment. 
But outside of POIS I have generally poor concentration, which might be related to lack of sexual release, but years ago I overcome that urge to masturbate, so outside of POIS, generally yes, I can go back to normal activities, recently I had a girlfriend, and I actually felt energized and motivated to do things after being with her, of course if there was no O.
What are your experiences regarding it?
Well for me after watching porn I become agitated, I can't focus on anything else other and I start getting withdrawal. This doesn't go away until I just wait an hour or two or I just release, which is always more tempting.
Anyways glad you found a girl friend. I'm personally socially isolating myself because of POIS, no friends and no girl friends. I wonder if I can ever get myself out of this situation.

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Re: If you're looking for a woman...
« Reply #6 on: December 26, 2019, 12:33:34 PM »
A woman want me, i want her too, but POIS won't her.
I did 5 N.E in one mouth because i think to her.
I am bad, very bad : my vision is blurred, my brain is softened.
Nas is strong, he is an example for me because he have a self-control.
I am proud of you bro.

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Re: If you're looking for a woman...
« Reply #7 on: December 26, 2019, 12:42:42 PM »
A woman want me, i want her too, but POIS won't her.
I did 5 N.E in one mouth because i think to her.
I am bad, very bad : my vision is blurred, my brain is softened.
Nas is strong, he is an example for me because he have a self-control.
I am proud of you bro.
What control?  ;D I'm worst than you buddy, I don't even have anyone other than my parents. Everyday is just an episode of self hate and over consumption of social media and video games just so I can ignore all the darkness of my mind.
At least you have a person that can motivate you to improve yourself. Maybe that's a good thing.

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Re: If you're looking for a woman...
« Reply #8 on: December 26, 2019, 02:41:03 PM »
You are a tragic hero bro like all POISers.
Your courage, your lucidity... are so beautiful like all POISers. 
You should write a book or paint a tableau bro for transcend your suffering ! Art can save you : your destruction become a creation, the activity help you for forget the bad effects.

I live hidden bro,
Anybody know i have this disease.
My brain is so softened, i confuse you with Gus...
Gus, Nas, Gus, Nas,
Three letters pseudo,
short to remember,
"S" final.
I  am Gus ? I am Nas ? A little.

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Re: If you're looking for a woman...
« Reply #9 on: December 26, 2019, 05:26:38 PM »
I would've been artist probably if POIS didn't cripple me cognitively  :-\

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Re: If you're looking for a woman...
« Reply #10 on: February 07, 2020, 02:46:05 AM »
I am heterosexual, but I often feel that for POISER homosexuality would be a better choice.

Why I think that is mainly related that men understand men better, while it is impossible for us to understand women, and with the fact that women are so obsessed with men being very self confidant, with high self esteem, very alpha that makes decisions easily.
In one word everything that they are not on average.
While I feel like we POISER on average all experience insecurities and lack of self esteem, at least when in POIS.

To me it looks like women like some emotional game which is far beyond my understanding and possibilities.
And even to take them in bed needs some energy commitment from the our side.

Many more reasons could be mentioned, but overall, at least for causal sex , and possible relationship I would say being gay would be easier.
For now only heathier diet gave me minor fatigue relief, I am still unable to think, to work, to enjoy and to socialise during POIS.