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Urinary hesitancy/problems with bowel movements
« on: March 24, 2015, 10:31:29 AM »
Hi, my name is Roi, I'm new here. I'm soon to be 26, living in Israel.

I will describe a problem I have from around the time POIS started (age 17) and another which I developed later, and I wonder if anyone can relate (please reply).

I have a problem to start urinating even when I'm home alone. Sometimes it takes me more than one minute. Sometimes it takes me a few seconds. Even when I drink alcohol or caffeine which cause the urge to urinate I can have this problem.
I have this problem from around the age of 17. After ejaculating it can take me almost five minutes to be able to start urinating, and even then, the stream is weak and I really need to stress the muscles and the stream is not constant.

When I was in elementary school I always restrained from going to the bathroom because I was very shy to ask the teacher for permission.
No doubt it can be connected to the problem I have today, but it's weird it only happened for no apparent reason around the age of 17, roughly around the time I realised orgasms affect me badly.
The only thing I can think of that triggered this problem is masturbating weirdly and trying hardly to postpone ejaculation all the times (Even before POIS) or hormones somehow.

From around the time POIS started, roughly every two seconds, I feel unconrolled contractions around the prostate area which affect the rectal and urethra sphincters, making problems even with defecation (weird kind of constipation, even when I have diarrhea) . Sometimes I need to hurt myself lightly in another part of the body for the contractions frequency to change and to be able to urinate/defecate more easily (maybe connected to the vagus nerve?).

Another problem (maybe connected), which I developed around 2 years ago is that I get fatigued and cold (especially in the palms of the hands) immediately after I defecate.

Other problems I developed around 3.5 years ago not related to POIS: something like CFS (I wake up tired, regardless of the time I slept), something like IBS (constant bloating, always feeling full) and something like Raynaud's phenomenon- high sensitivity to cold in the palms of the hands.

Thanks for reading, sorry if I used too many details and looking forward for your replies, even if you reply one year from now :)


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Re: Urinary hesitancy/problems with bowel movements
« Reply #1 on: January 18, 2021, 12:12:03 PM »
I searched this pois forum specifically for the word "constipation", coz its too difficult to spell dihoria...

My thing is this, lately ive been paying a lot of attention to my pelvic floor, the muscles that one flexes when one does Kegel exercises, and that is involved in urination, defecation, and (although im not sure to what extent) ejaculation.

I suffer from anxiety, depression, pois, and possibly bipolar disorder.

Lately Ive noticed that after ejaculation, i tend to have loose bowels, lots of sweating, and somewhat energetic behaviour, while after a few days, i tend to clam up, and withdraw, becoming antisocial, that is when i experience tense bowels.

Ive noticed that i also get somewhat gentle  muscular spasms regularly in the area between my ballsack and anus, from which I get some relieved when i warm this region, and its become a habit of mine to keep my warm hands on my ballsack...during which i can almost feel a kind of relaxation in my pelvic floor.

Recently Ive found that some things, lets call them internal and external stressors, causes my pelvic floor to "pull, tighten, and move up", like my "imaginary" tail was tucking between my legs out of fear, and id be anxious, and when id use my thoughts to consciously make my pelvic floor "push back, tighten the other way, and move down", id feel a weird sense of relief from the anxiety, like the world was weighing me down, but somehow using my pelvic floor i pushed back against the world and felt better.

I suspect i have a pelvic floor dysfunction. But i cant help but think it is one of the symptoms of or causes of pois...or perhaps just the "full body muscle inflammation" component of pois. I imagine muscles all over my body going haywire and causing all sorts of pains and reactions, and making my emotions go unstable.

Lately ive been taking Omega 3 fish oil capsules 1000mg x 6 per day, and i feel it really helps with the general inflammation (full body pain) during pois...but strangely i sometimes miss the aggressive out of control emotions i used to get from pois, when i didnt take any supplement...but thats only coz i often get emotionally numb after a week or more of abstinence...and dont feel any inclination to talk, when conversations are all around, no will to socialize, only the desire to withdraw and hide under a rock, like a Patrick.

Ive found diclofenac relieved my muscular spasms, but it is too expensive, or too harsh to take regularly.

I used to puff cannabis regularly (about a year back), and i used to feel good from it, it would relax my body the right way, following an orgasm. I am convinced the particular strain I smoked was good for inflammation. Now i hardly puff, and just smoke cigarettes, and my body feels worn out, like its been through a grinder.

Hey man, roi1989, this is my reply to you, coz your message really resonates with me, coz it feels good to find someone else who shares some of my own "weird" possibly pois symptoms.


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Re: Urinary hesitancy/problems with bowel movements
« Reply #2 on: January 18, 2021, 01:24:20 PM »
I notice when I drink alcohol my perineum relaxes almost immediately and profoundly. It makes me realize it's clenched almost always.


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Re: Urinary hesitancy/problems with bowel movements
« Reply #3 on: January 19, 2021, 03:17:37 PM »
You're not alone. I have issues initiating urination as well. It changes a lot though. I noticed that it's often not a problem in the morning, while it gets worse during the day.


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Re: Urinary hesitancy/problems with bowel movements
« Reply #4 on: January 19, 2021, 03:25:31 PM »
Cursed, I’ve been ‘cursed’ with overactive bladder. Frequent urination.
10 years of significant POIS-reduction, treatment consisting of daily (365 days/year) testosterone patches.

TRT must be checked out carefully with your doctor due to fertility, cardiac and other risks.

40+ years of severe 4-days-POIS, married, raised a family, started/ran a business