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Letting your employer know about POIS
« on: July 09, 2011, 03:16:05 AM »
I'm considering telling all.

All the sicknesses I've ever taken off in my entire life is pretty much down to POIS, I've always had to blame it on some of the symptoms and be vauge, but enough is enough, I'm under investigation right now for the total amount of absences I've had this year and POIS is in my medical records, most people where I work are open to discussions of a sexual nature and maybe they'll understand how much of a sacrifice I make to attend and produce work, is this a good idea or bad idea?

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Re: Letting your employer know about POIS
« Reply #1 on: July 09, 2011, 07:52:21 AM »
I don't know about where you live, here in Chile, supposedly by law the employee has rights, but the actual implementation of the law is very weak. They can always find an excuse to get around the rules and nobody has the resources to take it to the end.

So in part, it would depend on the strength of the law in your area, or the ethics in general in business.

It would help of course if you can document whatyou say, which is hard with POIS... and often, even if the employer could sympathize emotionally, he needs someone to fill a requirement.

You know how it is, he is likely to think, "Well if you want your job, you're just going to have to control your masturbation!"

One option might be to see if there's a way that he could find/create a position for you that is more compatible to POIS. It wasn't POIS related, but one time, I arranged with my employer that I work from home on the basis of performance. It required that week by week, a Gantt chart was processed, that followed the performance of the work that I was performing. Previously a value was given to the advance scale.

This is good for both, although not very common and requires an open minded "boss". But the employer is satisfied becasue he only has to pay by performance, and the employee is satisfied becasue he can adjust his time to suit his condition yet still perform as required.

Even if it's not a situation of working at home, perhaps you could try to see if there is some kind of work to performance plan you could work out with him.

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Re: Letting your employer know about POIS
« Reply #2 on: July 11, 2011, 10:53:17 AM »
if you mention it just mention fatigue and other symptoms but not the brain fog symptoms, you dont want them questioning your abilities.

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Re: Letting your employer know about POIS
« Reply #3 on: July 12, 2011, 02:39:16 PM »
Thanks for the insight daveman, I only have a part time job, but it means quite a lot because it allows me to escape and be free of POIS for as long as possible, that's why I kept it.

I'm in trouble now, but I'll tell them about POIS, we'll see how this pans out.

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Re: Letting your employer know about POIS
« Reply #4 on: July 12, 2011, 03:37:08 PM »
i would advise not to tell the employer!

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Re: Letting your employer know about POIS
« Reply #5 on: July 13, 2011, 10:48:15 AM »
i would advise not to tell the employer!

Any specific reasons as to why not? Where I live it's not a sexually oppressed society, it's talked about like anything else, very little is taboo thesedays.

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Re: Letting your employer know about POIS
« Reply #6 on: July 13, 2011, 10:52:14 AM »
Don't tell the world what we all are suffering through cause they don't know how it feels to be in POIS and they will make fun of it.we all the sufferers should use our unity and power to eradicate this thing from our system and then show the world,what we can do when we are normal as they are...

Actually on the contarary, people make fun of me because I don't engage in relationships, I don't know what they think my reasons are, usually I'm not effected too much by other peoples views on me, it's good to know what other people who don't have POIS have might think of it, believe me, they darn't make fun of me, I have a big mouth at times.

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Re: Letting your employer know about POIS
« Reply #7 on: July 13, 2011, 11:12:51 AM »
Don't tell the world what we all are suffering through cause they don't know how it feels to be in POIS and they will make fun of it.we all the sufferers should use our unity and power to eradicate this thing from our system and then show the world,what we can do when we are normal as they are...

Actually on the contarary, people make fun of me because I don't engage in relationships, I don't know what they think my reasons are, usually I'm not effected too much by other peoples views on me, it's good to know what other people who don't have POIS have might think of it, believe me, they darn't make fun of me, I have a big mouth at times.

I bet people at my work are curious why i dont have a girlfriend but i dont care what they think, i bet they chalk it up to me being gay and still in the closet.


I have talked to coworkers (old job) about pois before but not my boss. My coworkers were definately not sex oppressed because they talked about it at least once a week, but they still didnt believe me and made jokes even though i showed them the forum and the reasearch papers i had.
Their mind can connect sex to causing the symptoms pois cause, because they have never experienced pois  and they connect great pleasure to sex.

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Re: Letting your employer know about POIS
« Reply #8 on: July 13, 2011, 11:37:58 AM »
That's true it would be VERY difficult for a normal, otherwise unassuming person to understand about POIS, a true understanding would only come from going through POIS, the words that represent POIS symptoms are just words, with no feelings, I just wish it was possible for another person to feel how bad POIS is and the destruction it causes, my colleuges are not very intellectual so I don't think I will get the response I'm looking for.

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Re: Letting your employer know about POIS
« Reply #9 on: July 13, 2011, 01:32:03 PM »
i would advise not to tell the employer!

Any specific reasons as to why not? Where I live it's not a sexually oppressed society, it's talked about like anything else, very little is taboo thesedays.

the employer wont like you more as an employee after telling him,
but if you take more days off he will know what you've been up!

its all about the money with them
its a sign of weakness
I wouldnt recommend it
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Re: Letting your employer know about POIS
« Reply #10 on: July 14, 2011, 10:20:00 AM »

the employer wont like you more as an employee after telling him,
but if you take more days off he will know what you've been up!

its all about the money with them
its a sign of weakness
I wouldnt recommend it
my opinion

I've been trained to a quite a high level, so to train another person would actually cost the company quite a bit of time and money, the company I work for, on the face of things actually seem to care about the employees, I would be interested what they could offer me in return for telling them I have POIS... Again I am a smooth talker, maybe they can give me a bonus or something if I abstain for long, ergh... I hate to think what the person might bbe thinking if I ring in sick then again.

I need to give it some thought, the people I am talking to, I know then quite well, it would have to be done in a scripted manner.

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Re: Letting your employer know about POIS
« Reply #11 on: September 14, 2014, 02:49:13 PM »
very..bad...idea...

At least here in Greece it would equal to my getting fired in a few nanoseconds. And I have fought too much against failing hard @ work due to POIS symptoms to risk such a thing.

Being a programmer, it is extremely tedious (even painful, since it causes severe migraines) to pull my mind together and stay focused during these days.

The only case I would reveal such a thing to my boss would be if he/she was a relative, close friend or a person of proven understanding and compassion (which is beyond rare).

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Re: Letting your employer know about POIS
« Reply #12 on: September 15, 2014, 04:28:20 AM »
very..bad...idea...

At least here in Greece it would equal to my getting fired in a few nanoseconds. And I have fought too much against failing hard @ work due to POIS symptoms to risk such a thing.

Being a programmer, it is extremely tedious (even painful, since it causes severe migraines) to pull my mind together and stay focused during these days.

The only case I would reveal such a thing to my boss would be if he/she was a relative, close friend or a person of proven understanding and compassion (which is beyond rare).

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As for the topic, i too think it is a bad idea. It isn't easy for people to understand POIS, they 'll probably think you have psychological issues. Even my mother can't understand me! So try to keep on and act like nothing is happening, you must not put your job at risk.

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Re: Letting your employer know about POIS
« Reply #13 on: September 15, 2014, 11:58:30 AM »
I told my work and they were very supportive. My boss, a woman, new sometimes I was having a bad day and would just check with me that everything is OK.
She new that one of the triggers was sexually activity (actually this is the only one). She supported me loads and continued to give me good pay rises. I Also spoke with our occupational health department. I guess it's down to how well you know your boss/company. For me it a took a massive wait of my mind when I could finally talk about this problem after not beings able to say anything to anyone for more than 25 years. Progesterone has enabled me to deal with things a lot better, although I don't like idea of taking it too much. I wanna tVNS machine...damn hard to get though...

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30 years of POIS. Mytelase after O with Iceman breathing technique.

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Re: Letting your employer know about POIS
« Reply #14 on: September 15, 2014, 12:04:16 PM »
I told my work and they were very supportive. My boss, a woman, new sometimes I was having a bad day and would just check with me that everything is OK.
She new that one of the triggers was sexually activity (actually this is the only one). She supported me loads and continued to give me good pay rises. I Also spoke with our occupational health department. I guess it's down to how well you know your boss/company. For me it a took a massive wait of my mind when I could finally talk about this problem after not beings able to say anything to anyone for more than 25 years. Progesterone has enabled me to deal with things a lot better, although I don't like idea of taking to. I wanna tVNS machine...damn hard to get...

FloppyB
Hi FB,

It is great you have experienced such understanding, but I think erring on the cautious side of disclosure isn't a bad thing.

You obviously are very fortunate to have an open, accepting & empathetic boss.